There are a lot of books, talks, podcasts, movies and articles out there on reaching your full potential, but what does this actually mean? In this podcast (episode #233) and blog, I speak with humanistic psychologist and top podcast host Scott Barry Kaufman about the roadmap for finding purpose and fulfillment, the power of self-actualization, how to realize your full potential, why a little selfishness can be a good thing, and so much more!
As Scott discusses in his new book Transcend, we need to value each person’s unique journey in life—their special path to discover and actualize their potential. We shouldn’t put pressure on people to be happy, achieve certain things or fit in some social box; there is value in being sad at times, failing and dealing with hard stuff in life. We need to bring our whole self to the table!
Unfortunately, in today’s world, psychology and neuroscience have become very reductionistic. They take a slice of who we are and treat that as the whole thing. But we are a lot more than an IQ score, bran scan or biological marker!
This is why Scott created his self-actualization questionnaire, which is based on his own research and his study of Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Abraham Maslow was a humanistic psychologist who believed that human development is a constant two-step forward, one-step back affair. He argued that we need to choose growthrepeatedly, not fear, even though fear is often easier to give in to; growth requires you to get out of your comfort zone, which is always challenging!
As Scott points out, self-actualization is an important human need. It can be divided into three parts: exploration, love and purpose. These three components work together in concert to help us reach our full potential. They are a base for exploration, driving us forward even when fear tries to hold us back. They help us live the life we want, on our own terms. Security alone is not enough for a full life. You need to be willing to open yourself up to the world and be vulnerable as you sail through life!
Self-actualization can be achieved in many ways, as Scott describes on his website:
- Continued freshness of appreciation, or gratitude for everyday things.
- Authenticity, which means staying true to your values when you are challenged.
- Truth Seeking.
- Peak Experiences.
- Good Moral Intuition.
- Creative Spirit.
There is no one thing that will satisfy all your needs—human life is about integration, not magic bullets!
In fact, as Scott points out, we don’t have to choose between self-development and self-sacrifice. At the highest level of self-actualization, what is good for you is good for others and the world.
At the end of the day, we need to understand that not all selfishness is bad, and not all altruism is good. Life is about balance, and taking care of yourself and your needs is important! Don’t feel the compulsive need to say yes to everyone or live under what Scott calls the “tyranny of shoulds”. Listen to yourself and your intuition—when you feel the drive to help someone, do so. If you don’t, it is okay to say no and set up boundaries! When you do this, you value your own freedom, integrity and worth. This is very different to unhealthy selfishness, which is a kind of narcissism, and is characterized by an excessive self-focus that negatively impacts our wellbeing and sense of purpose.
For more on human potential, self-actualization and wellbeing, listen to my podcast (episode #233) with Scott and check out his website and podcast. If you enjoy listening to my podcast, please consider leaving a 5-star review and subscribing. And keep sharing episodes with friends and family and on social media. (Don’t forget to tag me so I can see your posts!)
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3:58 Why Maslow's hierarchy of needs is incomplete and the science of actualization
7:09 The failures of modern psychology and neuroscience
10:00 The characteristics of self-actualization
16:30 Why we need to choose growth, not fear
18:56 Why self-actualization is so important for our health and wellbeing
27:00 How to be happy with what you have
36:50 Why we all need to be a little selfish
45:36 The biggest struggles Scott has faced and how he overcame them
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