How to Develop Sustainable Self-Confidence & Identify Self-Sabotaging Behaviors + The Best Lessons from World Leaders like Kobe Bryant & Mark Cuban (Interview with Patrick Bet David)

Life is full of chances to grow, learn and achieve new things, but we often miss out on these opportunities because we don’t know where to look or where to start. In this podcast (#234) and blog, I speak with startup entrepreneur, CEO, author and creator of the popular YouTube channel Valuetainment Patrick Bet David about the importance of constantly learning, why tenacity, creativity and self-confidence are integral to success, how to identify and overcome self-sabotaging behavior, using peer pressure to your advantage, why we need to be careful of too much success, and more!

When it comes to getting ahead in life, you must use whatever you have. It doesn’t matter what your gift is! Tenacity has nothing to do with specific talents. It is about you not giving up until you get what you want. This is a quality you can learn and strengthen over time with practice—it means pushing the envelope a little more each time until you get more “yes’s” than “no’s”.

As Patrick points out, confidence comes in multiple different forms. Almost everyone is confident in a certain area. It is important to realize what you want to be confident in, and become so good at it that you will want to do it more and do it better. When you are truly confident in your abilities, you don’t just speak big; you actually deliver! This will show yourself and others that you mean business and are here to stay.

This means learning how to sell yourself and what you have to offer. Indeed, selling is not just about business. Parenting, relationships, job interviews, politics, friendships and almost everything we do is about selling our story and capabilities. The art of selling, negotiation and persuasion are some of the most important skills we can learn!

Unfortunately, many people miss out on selling what they have to give the world because of fear. Most of the world’s greatest world changers and heroes are in the graveyard, undiscovered, because they never sold out to their dreams and desires. Their fears held them back from giving their best and pursuing their goals, and the world lost out as a result. Don’t let this be your story! 

As Patrick notes in his new book, Your Next 5 Moves, don’t waste all your time thinking about what other people are doing. Think about what you should be doing! Who do YOU want to be and how do YOU want to live? When you know this, you will find success, because you know what you are good at and what your capacity is, which brings fulfillment, peace and confidence. Remember, you make a great YOU, but a lousy someone else. There is something you can do that no one else can do! 

But be careful of success! Never be complacent or cocky, because no one has 100% job (or life!) security. Keep growing, keep pushing yourself, keep improving and keep learning. This is the only way to keep moving forward in life. What brought you here will not take you to the next level!

Indeed, if you want to get to the next level in your career or life, you must be prepared to give up the top status you have now and start at the bottom again, because you won’t be the best at the next level. You must be prepared to learn, grow and fail.

Don’t let your desire for success lower your expectations, standards or values. Success can become your biggest enemy if you are not careful! When you win, you can become overconfident and arrogant, and that is when you get caught! When you are at the highest level, you should become deaf to compliments, or they can make you too cocky.

It is also important that you recognize the power of healthy peer pressure and criticism. When we are doing the wrong thing, we generally don’t want to talk to the right people. But the reality is we need that perspective! Peer pressure can actually be a good thing; it can help us do better and be better. A caring community can challenge us to be our best.

For more on growth, tenacity and mental health, listen to my podcast (episode #234) with Patrick and check out his website, YouTube channel and book. If you enjoy listening to my podcast, please consider leaving a 5-star review and subscribing. And keep sharing episodes with friends and family and on social media. (Don’t forget to tag me so I can see your posts!)

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Podcast Highlights

3:11 What Patrick learned as a child living in a refugee camp

10:30 Why tenacity is so important 

13:09 The power of self-confidence 

19:48 Why we ALL need to learn the art of selling 

24:45 How fear can prevent us from achieving our dreams

28:00 How to master the art of business strategy 

34:45 The danger of complacency 

42:00 The relationship between accountability and success

46:27 Why not all peer pressure is bad

49:50 How success can become your biggest enemy 

54:04 The mindsets of the most successful and interesting people

58:50 How to overcome challenges and obstacles in life 

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