Most people think their struggles in love come down to bad luck or choosing the wrong partner. But neuroscience tells a very different story. In this latest episode of my podcast, I break down the seven hidden brain traps that shape who we're attracted to, why we repeat unhealthy relationship patterns, and why love can feel so much harder than it should.

I've spent decades studying how the brain works, and one of the most fascinating areas of research is how our past experiences and emotional wiring influence our romantic choices. The patterns we see in our relationships aren't random—they're deeply connected to neural pathways formed early in life, unprocessed emotional needs, and trauma loops that we often don't even realize are running in the background.

In this podcast, I walk you through how your inherited attachment template shapes the kind of people you're drawn to and the relationship dynamics you unconsciously recreate. We explore why suppressed emotional needs keep leading you to the same relational outcomes, and how unprocessed trauma creates a sense of chemistry with people who actually aren't good for us. These aren't character flaws—they're brain patterns that can be identified and changed.

I outline the seven brain traps that quietly sabotage love and, more importantly, how to interrupt each one. Understanding these traps is the first step toward breaking free from cycles that leave you feeling stuck, confused, or wondering why you keep ending up in similar situations with different people.

What excites me most about this research is that change doesn't have to take years. Using the science-backed micro-strategies I share in this episode, you can start rewiring your love patterns in as little as 48 hours. Our brains are remarkably plastic, meaning they can form new neural pathways quickly when we give them the right tools and intentional focus.

Whether you're single and navigating the dating world, in a relationship and noticing familiar patterns emerging, or somewhere in between, this episode offers both clarity and a practical way forward. I also discuss why dating apps often reinforce old patterns rather than helping us break them, and what we can do about it.

If you've ever felt like you're stuck in a loop when it comes to relationships, this episode will help you understand why—and give you concrete steps to create a different outcome. Love doesn't have to feel this hard, and understanding the neuroscience behind attraction is the key to making lasting change.